In August 2010 I embarked on an assignment to pleasure myself for 30 consecutive days. The intention was to unfurl old patterns and to develop a personal practice of solo loving. This endeavor turned out to be far more revealing and transformational than I could have imagined. It took several rounds of missing days and starting over again before I was able to finally complete a 30 day cycle from November to December 2010. This entire process was a wonderful opportunity for self-study. I was able to see old habits that weren’t serving me any more both in the way that I thought of masturbation and in ways that I lived my life.
I began to completely reframe how I defined sex and sexuality. There were times when I found self-pleasure without ever touching my genitals. I acknowledged the sensuality and even ecstasy that I could experience just through breathing and moving energy through my body, through simply touching my face, my arms, my legs, my breasts. During this time I also tried phone sex, skype sex, self anal play, Tantric practices, dancing naked and numerous other things while I completely refrained from sex toys.
The biggest awakening came when I realized that there were many times that I didn’t feel worthy of my own self-love. Taking time for yourself and giving to yourself requires you to be actively loving yourself. Looking back, I see a major shift in my life in the amount that I allow myself to love myself and to give to myself. This ripples out into all relationships in my life and I am now open to receiving more love all around.
Self-pleasure is an opportunity to be fully with ourselves and to care for ourselves.
I hope you will join me beginning April 1, 2012 for your own 31 day pleasure challenge! I want to support you along your journey so I am going to post questions for you to journal on each week and invite you to share a passage of it with me. For every woman that completes the challenge I am going to gift you a copy of my e-book, 31 Ways to Keep It Hot!
Here’s how it works:
- Subscribe to this blog on the laracatone.com homepage to receive e-mail updates when a new blog is posted
- I will post questions for contemplation each Sunday starting April 1st.
- You will e-mail a short passage of your journal entry each Wednesday (one to two paragraphs).
- For every woman who completes all 31 days and every journal entry you will receive a copy of my e-book and be entered to win some other fun, sexy prizes (to be announced)!