Have you found yourself curious, confused or perhaps stumbling around how to relate with people of different genders in professional contexts? Are you aware that the rules have changed but not sure how?
We are amidst a profound culture change in how we relate to gender, power and sexual dynamics in the United States, and particularly, in our places of work. In the first year of this recent surge in the #MeToo movement from October 2017-October 2018:
There were 19 million uses of the #MeToo hashtag (The Pew Research Center)
More than 425 prominent people across industries were publicly accused of sexual misconduct (Bloomberg)
At least 11 states instituted legislative protection for workplace harassment (CNBC)
We know that things have not been working and that change is here. However, we haven’t yet imagined what might be possible in new ways of relating with each other. Our typical approaches of policing and repressing sexual dynamics have not worked. We have seen that eros finds its way in through the side door even with our best attempts at denial.
I have a bold idea. What if we welcomed, and turned toward the erotic impulse, even at work?
Sexuality is one expression of eros, however, the essence of eros simply wants to create, relate and transform. When we cut off eros because we fear its association with sexuality, we also sever creativity and the social-emotional intelligence that true leadership requires.Read More