A brief preface: These musings on eros are questions that I am living into the world. That means I am in relationship with eros and constantly learning from it. All of these thoughts will continue to evolve.
Eros is the life-giving creative force. Eros is what enlivens and animates us through joy, desire, passion, and connection.
Eros is feeling. It is both longing and communion. Eros is bold. Electric. Radiant. Pulsating. Opening to eros allows us to be moved.
Eros in wholeness disrupts and interrupts that which is not in alignment with its generative, evolutionary nature.
The erotic doesn’t play small. It doesn’t behave for the benefit of other’s comfort. The erotic is not pornographic. Nor perfectionistic.
Erotic expression is the embodiment of true power.
When tapped as a resource eros is an unequivocal guide, a life enhancing elixir and serum of vital truth telling. Eros evokes intrinsic excellence and whole being, whole life, whole systems integration.
To be enlivened with eros is to be present, fully engaged, turned-on, plugged-in and deeply connected to life as it arises free of the need to control or contort—mechanisms that repress and distort eros.
The remembering, reawakening, reclaiming and reintegrating of eros is essential for the healing and thriving potential of our planet. As the force of life, erotic energy, reestablishes us in our greatest field of connection; inter-independence with fellow humans, the earth, all beings and the cosmos.
Eros demands that we live nothing less than our own personal mythic legend.
Eros is the vehicle which ushers our souls into physical existence.
And where does sex fit into all of this you ask?
Where I currently stand is that erotic energy, life force and sex energy are all one in the same. I do not have a definition of where sex begins and ends. For me sex is not defined by climax or the genitals being involved in some kind of exchange. When I merge with trees, the wind, people’s minds, hearts, books that I’m reading and with myself, is that sex?
I think culture might best be served to widen our definition of sex as much as possible while getting more clear about the sub genres of sex energy that involve an exchange; sexual attraction (which has something to do with biochemistry and physical desire), sexual relationship with self or other and the plethora of sexual acts possible between one, two or more people. I think we need to become conscious of our own sexual energy and then get really clear how it interacts with others.
All sex and sexual exchanges begin with energy. Often our sexual energy is reaching out to someone without us even being aware of it. As we embrace that sex energy is permeating and animating everything, we can also understand that we have choice in how we engage with it.
The primary gift of eros is that it makes us feel more alive. When we feel this aliveness around another person we can decide if we want to have a lively conversation, a playful friendship, create a service project, plant a garden, paint, dance, or engage in physical intimacy. Sexual connection between two people is simply the physical, embodied manifestation of eros and only one of its many textures.
I believe that it is the conscious embodiment of eros--rather than further severance, or attempts to contain it in small boxes--that will create more sexual health and happiness as well as more authentic, enriching relationships of all kinds.
Eros is the ecstatic dance between yearning for and communion with life.