Eros, A Resource for Fierce Love

September 11, 2018

A primary benefit of feeling your life fall apart as you know it, is the incredible opportunity to recreate from a place of deeper truth and authenticity. For almost two years I have been letting go and listening while waiting patiently for eros, the sacred force of life, to reclaim me.

Now, freed from all plans and any notion of control, the things that stir my soul and draw me out are unmistakeable. The feeling of commitment that I experience when standing in my values has become unshakeable. My approach to life and my work is emergent. I quiet my rational mind so that I can hear what longs to come through me. I take action while remaining unattached to outcome. I express my essence unapologetically. 

I have been in the process of updating my website and offerings to reflect who I am now (and whew is it a process!). I am dedicating more energy to writing provocative, culture shaping pieces and have distilled my primary purpose down to: midwifing the rebirth of whole, healthy eros into culture. 

Eros is the vehicle which ushers our souls into physical existence. Erotic expression is the embodiment of true power. I have been drinking in the words of Audre Lorde as I read and re-read her 1978 essay, The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power. She calls the erotic the “nurturer of all our deepest knowledge” and writes:

Recognizing the power of the erotic within our lives can give us the energy to pursue genuine change within our world, rather than merely settling for a shift of characters in the same weary drama.

Eros is a resource for depth of feeling, clarity and willful action. It encapsulates both our inner lover and warrior this kind of fierce love is a resource that our planet longs for.

[btw there's still a couple of spaces open for my upcoming retreat Undomesticated: An Erotic Experiential Journey happening live in Portland in November. Find out more here.] 

I have been feeding my eros—and faith—through truth-tellers of justice, in writing, film, and comedy. Several months ago I went to fill up from the Netflix comedy well. A banner for Hannah Gadsby’s special Nanette flashed across the screen. I had never heard of Gadsby but the description read: Australian comic Hannah Gadsby reshapes standard stand-up by pairing punchlines with personal revelations on gender, sexuality and childhood turmoil. Sounded like my jam so I dove in. 

The next 69 captivating minutes were nothing short of life altering soul salve. I don’t need to say anything else. Just watch it. It is brilliant comedy that breaks all convention and gets really real. Save it for a time when you are feeling resourced and have a few minutes to integrate the ride. 

Your resilience is your humanity . . . to yield and not break, THAT is incredible strength.
                          -Hannah Gadsby

I have healed, I have rested, and now I am ready to fucking rock! I hope you will join me in holding a vision of possibility, opening to the big feelings of where we are being called to go and grounding into truth in each breath and action in each step.

My intention is to write to you twice per month, every other, Monday (or maybe occasionally on a Tuesday when I’m in the midst of a massive website overhaul or . . . life).  : )  These eros infused Moonday Musings will be a delicious mix of:

eros inspired writings
cultural contemplations
media/organizations/people that are turning me on and waking me up
calls to action, adventure and awakening.

My goal for these musings is to inspire, invigorate and rally so that we can keep living the world we long to live in together with faith and fortification.

Let's do this.